I promised to share what we learned during the Christian Heritage homeschooling conference we recently attended. Here's installment #1 :)
The Wisdom of Proverbs was the first keynote message we enjoyed from Dr. Voddie Baucham. The message in a nutshell was to differentiate between the indicatives and the imperatives of the book of Proverbs.
Indicatives -- what God has done / is producing in us, His people
Imperatives -- what God requires / enables us, His people, to do
Dr. Baucham instructed us to be sure we're using the Proverbs to teach our children wisdom rather than law or a set of rules. When we use the indicatives as imperatives, we wind up teaching our children to "just do it" rather than pointing them to Christ who alone is able to produce in them (and us!) that good work began by Him (which, sadly, serves to produce self-righteous pharisees rather instead of humble, thankful followers of the Savior).
Our goal in the discipleship, training, and home education of our children is not worldly success. It must be the training of their hearts as well as their minds -- outward obedience does not indicate a changed heart! Yet outward obedience can often be what we achieve when we're impatient and don't take the time to point our children to Christ...
"Don't behave that way -- you're embarrassing me!"
"Be nice to your sister!"
"Don't talk like that to your brother!"
"Don't you talk like that to me..."
"Go to your room!"
"Wait 'til your father gets home."
So often our words are spoken harshly or impatiently. So often we are too busy to take the time to lead our children to the source of life, wisdom, and truth.
"To know wisdom and instruction..." Proverbs 1:2-4
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge..." Proverbs 1:7
If all we're doing is making demands for obedience and righteous behavior without patiently teaching them the why, our children will see our hypocrisy, they will resent it, and we will reap what we've sown. But...
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. I John 1:9
We must lead our children to the Savior and His Word, and we must lead by example. :)
More to come...
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